A Reddit user who was criticized on social media for bringing his large family to a wedding was defended for doing so, with an etiquette expert telling Fox News Digital that the guest was not at fault.
“AITA for bringing 6 people with me to my niece’s wedding?” asked Reddit user “TAonlyAITA” in a January 9, 2024 post on “Am I the Asshole?” subreddit.
In the publication, the writer explained that he has five children, ages 17 to 9, and that his niece, Ayla, recently got married.
“When I received the invitation as a guest, it said: ‘[TAonlyAITA]’The family’ on the invitation, which, in my opinion, included my children, myself and my wife,” he wrote.
Furthermore, he said, “there was no warning about marriage without children or the minimum age” in the invitation.
“Although Ayla is a little older, she always had a lot of contact when she was younger with my children (even more so with the oldest) and she has contact at parties,” TAonlyAITA wrote.
The wedding, the user added, was a smaller affair “only for family and close friends.”
There were also no assigned seats at the reception.
“From the invitation I understood that my family was invited and I took all my children,” he wrote.
His brother also brought his two children, ages 18 and 14.
And while the “ceremony was wonderful,” his sister, Ayla’s mother, confronted him during the party.
She approached him “to ask him if everyone really came,” TAonlyAITA wrote.
In the post, the writer (not pictured) explained that he has five children, ages 17 to 9, and that his niece, Ayla, recently got married. fake images
“I confirmed it, she didn’t say anything else and I didn’t think anything else.”
However, the day after the wedding, TAonlyAITA’s sister sent her a message saying that her behavior was “inconvenient” and that “I should have asked the bride and groom if I could bring all my children, who almost didn’t have enough seats.” . she wrote on Reddit.
TAonlyAITA told him that she thought his invitation extended to his entire family, including his children.
“She still doesn’t agree. She said that when you have such a big family, you have to confirm if you can take everyone and not guess,” TAonlyAITA wrote.
When TAonlyAITA asked her niece about this, “she confirmed that it was a planning mistake on her part, but in the end she liked everyone present,” she said.
The wedding, the user added, was a smaller affair “only for family and close friends.” fake images
The niece thought that only her older cousins would attend.
Despite all this, the man wrote that “my sister still criticizes him.”
Fox News Digital reached out to TAonlyAITA for more updates and information on the family drama.
An etiquette expert told Fox News Digital that, in her opinion, the man did nothing wrong and that the real mistake was in his sister’s behavior and the way the wedding invitation was addressed.
“When you say ‘to the person and the family,’ you mean their home. That’s mom, dad and kid,” said Elaine Swann, a California-based etiquette and lifestyle expert.
The day after the wedding, TAonlyAITA’s sister (not pictured) sent her a message saying that her behavior was “inconvenient” and that “I should have asked the bride and groom if I could bring all my children, who hardly had any. “enough seats.” .” fake images
A wedding invitation just for the couple should be addressed “Mr. and the lady,” she said.
And while adults-only weddings are “absolutely acceptable,” the invitation should clearly reflect this.
“This family is bringing their five kids; there’s nothing wrong with that, based on the way they were invited,” Swann said.
However, what was wrong were the sister’s actions at the wedding, he said.
“This was not appropriate in terms of timing,” Swann said.
Fox News Digital reached out to TAonlyAITA for more updates and information on the family drama. Getty Images/iStockphoto
“It’s important for people to be gracious hosts.”
Everyone who organizes an event should know that “sometimes unexpected things happen,” he said, and at the time of the event, it’s best to just make things work.
Dr. Jayme Albin, a psychologist and licensed cognitive-behavioral therapist in New York City, had a slightly different take on the situation.
Albin said he congratulated the bride for taking responsibility for the wedding invitation mishap.
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“While his intention was to invite only the older children, he made it clear that he made a mistake and that it was not his cousin’s fault,” Albin said.
“That said, I think the children’s father should have used a little more common sense and a little more courtesy when thinking about the wedding,” she added.
“Taking six people to a wedding is very expensive, regardless of whether they are children or adults.”
Albin also told Fox News Digital that he believed TAonlyAITA “should have told the bride” about bringing all of her children, “or at least had a conversation with her to make sure she was okay.”
Fox News Digital reached out to TAonlyAITA for more updates and information on the family drama.
On the AITAH subreddit, people can reply to posts and indicate the author as “NTA” (“Not the A-hole”), “YTA” (“You are the A-hole”), “NAH” ( “No A–hole”) or “ESH” (“Everyone stinks here”).
Users can “upvote” comments they find useful and “downvote” comments they find unhelpful.
The top-voted comment asked why the bride’s mother was so angry about the situation when the actual bride was not.
“NTA, right there. The girlfriend is not angry and she said that she was the one who was wrong and that she was happy to see her children there,” said Reddit user “7hr0wn.”
The user continued: “There is no problem here. Your sister is angry because of someone who has no problem.”
“The invitation said your family. You took your family,” said Reddit user “OkStar63” in another prominent comment.
“If the bride and groom wanted to give you a specific number of seats at the wedding, or if there was an age restriction, the invitation would have said so. “Your niece already assured you that it was a mistake on her part, and that she was fine,” they added.
Fox News Digital reached out to other experts for information.
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